Need someone to talk to?

Need someone to talk too that really listens to what you have to say?  In this digital age and with social media becoming a big vacuum of our time causing some of our relationships to diminish as we immerse ourselves with receiving affirmations from the likes or no likes that we get on Facebook or Instagram.   All of these interactions that we have by using social media and hiding behind the keyboard can make a lot of people feel lost among the virtual chaos feeling lonelier than ever.    We all want to feel validated but the instant gratification that so many people want in relations to a post that they have posted can sometimes mean more to them subconsciously than the actual event that took place.

How many parents do you see at children’s birthday parties stand behind the lens of a camera taking multiple shots of the child blowing the candles from the cake, concerning themselves with the best shot, the best filter and which social media platform to post it too first?  It all seems exciting and it all seems as if they are having a great time.  I am sure they are.  But there are also a lot of disappointments that follow when you don’t get as many likes as you thought you would, or you might get a comment that was unintentional, but hurtful to you.  Not to mention that you are truly missing out on the event when you are peering at it from behind a lens.  You are living for the actual image and not focusing truly on the present event.  All of these feelings over time, such as needing the instant gratification as described can make some people feel abandoned, which of course, can create loneliness.

People are yearning for solid relationships where they have somebody that just listens to them.  Just listens to what they have to say without passing comment or judgement.   They have the desire to talk to somebody that really listens and they also have the desire to talk to somebody that listens in total confidence without sharing your secrets with the circle of friends that you both share.

What a lot of people don’t see ten minutes before the happy go lucky Facebook post or ten minutes after the happy go lucky post is a disagreement that took place between both people.  So a lot of people stuck in a funk, with no party to go to, see posts that others are doing, thinking it is all butterflies and roses, making them feel lonelier than ever, when in actuality we all know that no relationship is perfect, but some don’t see it that way.  They buy into it whether they really realize it or not and slowly the loneliness or not feeling good enough factor creeps in.

I once had a friend that moved to a different state a few years ago and she missed us all terribly.  She shared with me that every time she saw pictures of us all online at various events, she just sat with a glass of wine and wanted to cry.  She said she had never felt so lonely and was concerned about picking up the phone and calling even though she really needed somebody to talk too, but felt we were all too busy having so much fun.  What she didn’t know at the time was, that two of the girls had a disagreement and one got a cab home and every time we went out, we always spoke about her and how we wished she was there with us.  We all thought because we didn’t see her on social media that she was busy and having too much fun to post.  This wasn’t the case.  She had nothing to post, because she felt miserable and lonely.

This was an eye opener for me and I suddenly realized if she felt like that, how many others feel like they are losing that solid human conversational connection and just want a person that they can talk too about how lonely they feel.

So at Phone My Friend, I am here to listen to you if you sit there and say to yourself “I feel so lonely, I just want to talk to somebody that really listens”  I can listen to you as your share your secrets, your frustrations or anything that you need to offload.  I don’t know your friends, I don’t know your family and whatever you share when you are lonely and needing somebody to talk too, will be heard without judgement, or ridicule and of course in total confidence.  Your perception of how you see your life is very real to you and I can help you by listening to you as you share.

It makes callers feel safe when they offload their frustrations to somebody and I know you are not always looking to be fixed or analyzed.  You just need somebody to talk to.   I am here for you when you need to talk to someone that cares about what you have to say.

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